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What is Love?


Is it something you feel when you’re with that special someone?

Wikipedia said that:

 “ Love is an emotion of a strong affection and personal attachment. Love is also said to be a virtue representing all of human kindness, compassion, and affection —"the unselfish loyal and benevolent oncern for the good of another". Love may describe compassionate and affectionate actions towards other humans, one's self or animals”


How do you know when you love someone? There’s no definite mean of love, every people has their own meaning of love. But let’s go back to bible as basic. The bible said in 1 Corrinthians 13:4-8:

“Love is patient and kind; love does not envy or boast; it is not arrogant or rude. It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful; it does not rejoice at wrongdoing, but rejoices with the truth. Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. Love never ends. As for prophecies, they will pass away; as for tongues, they will cease; as for knowledge, it will pass away”



Some couple are in hurry to say “I love you” without even really understand the meaning of it. Here's some of my thought about love:


Love is patient and kind, if you complain that your boyfriend makes you wait or get in your nerves, makes you mad all the time, and you can’t be patient with him, maybe you should check whether you love him or not. He's your boyfriend not your servant, and if he loves you he wouldn’t keep you waiting or do things that he knows for sure will make you upset in purpose.


Love does not envy or boast, it’s not arrogant or rude. If you got angry just because he/she make a little mistake, or if he/she accidentally spilled something and ruined your stuff, maybe you should think again, do you really love him? Or get mad just because he hangout with friends, easily got jealous, etc. If you love him/her, you will trust him/her, and you wouldn’t get jealous easily. Yeah it’s hard I know. And I didn’t say that if you love each other there won’t be any argument or fight, of course there will. We’re just a human being, and we’re different of course sometimes it end in a fight or argument. But remember, love is also not insist on its own way, so sometimes you need to compromise, and don’t forget it’s not irritable or resentful which means that you shouldn’t stay mad for too long or holding grudge, forgive him/her


So... you said that I have to understand him and forgive him if he did some mistake, what if he’s cheating on me? Should I forgive him too? Or if he hits me? What should I do? Well don’t forget “it does not rejoice at wrongdoing, but rejoices with the truth” If you loved him, it doesn’t mean that you justify his every act and word, that’s not love. That’s just stupidity (sorry for the mean words). And sometimes you just can’t see that he did wrong things, because you “love” him, you’re okay with him treating you wrong. Well with all the things I said above, isn’t it obvious that he doesn’t love you? If you still not sure, ask your best friends, your closest friend that can give an objective view.


“Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things” So yeah you live miles away from your “loved one”, so what? Love bears all things, distance, time, anything. If you keep complaining that it’s expensive to go to your girlfriend or boyfriend, or keep counting how much money you’ve spent for him/her, yeah.. I don’t think it’s love, but be wise, you don’t want them to take advantage of you because your being nice to them. It’s okay to spend some for your “loved one”, it’s okay to make a little sacrifice, if he is worth it. Or if you have long distance relationship, it’s hard I know, but it shouldn’t be a problem, because love knows no distance, knows no time. If you love each other you just have to believe, at some point it will all pay off, just consider it as a test of how strong your love is.


The bible has a really beautiful explanation of how love is, last but not least, my favorite the “Love never ends”, so if you’re in a relationship and at the end you said, “we should break up, I don’t love you anymore”. Maybe you’ve never loved him/her in the first place anyway, because love never ends, like when your parents said that they love you, there’s nothing in this world that can change the way they feel about you.. They will always love you through everything, better or worse, tears and laughter, even if sometimes you resent them.


If you cannot satisfy all the condition above, does it still call love? If you said that you love someone and you lied to him at the same time, would it still be love? Or if you cheated on your partner, is it possible that you still love him/her? So, before you said that you love someone, make sure that you are able to do all those things above. It’s hard? I know.. but at least you can try, and ask God to keep you strong :)



PS: it’s just my opinion, doesn’t mean that what I said has to be right, maybe you have your own opinion, please feel free to comment and give your own thought
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