Is it something you feel when you’re with that special someone?
Wikipedia said that:
“ Love is an emotion of a
strong affection and personal attachment. Love is also said to be a virtue
representing all of human kindness, compassion, and affection —"the unselfish
loyal and benevolent oncern for the good of another". Love may describe compassionate
and affectionate actions towards other humans, one's self or animals”
How do you know when you
love someone? There’s no definite mean of love, every people has their own
meaning of love. But let’s go back to bible as basic. The bible said in 1
Corrinthians 13:4-8:
“Love
is patient and kind; love does not envy or boast; it is not arrogant or rude.
It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful; it does
not rejoice at wrongdoing, but rejoices with the truth. Love bears all things,
believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. Love never ends. As
for prophecies, they will pass away; as for tongues, they will cease; as for
knowledge, it will pass away”
Some
couple are in hurry to say “I love you” without even really understand the
meaning of it. Here's some of my thought about love:
Love
is patient and kind, if you complain that your boyfriend makes you wait or
get in your nerves, makes you mad all the time, and you can’t be patient with
him, maybe you should check whether you love him or not. He's your boyfriend not your servant, and if he loves you he
wouldn’t keep you waiting or do things that he knows for sure will make you
upset in purpose.
Love
does not envy or boast, it’s not arrogant or rude. If you got
angry just because he/she make a little mistake, or if he/she accidentally spilled
something and ruined your stuff, maybe you should think again, do you really love him? Or get mad just because he hangout with
friends, easily got jealous, etc. If you love him/her, you will trust him/her,
and you wouldn’t get jealous easily. Yeah it’s hard I know. And I didn’t say
that if you love each other there won’t be any argument or fight, of course
there will. We’re just a human being, and we’re different of course sometimes
it end in a fight or argument. But remember, love is also not insist on its own
way, so sometimes you need to compromise, and don’t forget it’s not irritable
or resentful which means that you shouldn’t stay mad for too long or holding
grudge, forgive him/her
So...
you said that I have to understand him and forgive him if he did some mistake,
what if he’s cheating on me? Should I forgive him too? Or if he hits me? What should
I do? Well don’t forget “it
does not rejoice at wrongdoing, but rejoices with the truth” If you loved him, it doesn’t mean that you justify his every act and
word, that’s not love. That’s just stupidity (sorry for the mean words). And sometimes
you just can’t see that he did wrong things, because you “love” him, you’re
okay with him treating you wrong. Well with all the things I said above, isn’t
it obvious that he doesn’t love you? If you still not sure, ask your
best friends, your closest friend that can give an objective view.
“Love
bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things” So yeah you live miles away from your “loved
one”, so what? Love bears all things, distance, time, anything. If you keep
complaining that it’s expensive to go to your girlfriend or boyfriend, or keep
counting how much money you’ve spent for him/her, yeah.. I don’t think it’s
love, but be wise, you don’t want them to take advantage of you because your
being nice to them. It’s okay to spend some for your “loved one”, it’s okay to
make a little sacrifice, if he is worth it. Or if you have long distance
relationship, it’s hard I know, but it shouldn’t be a problem, because love
knows no distance, knows no time. If you love each other you just have to
believe, at some point it will all pay off, just consider it as a test of how
strong your love is.
The
bible has a really beautiful explanation of how love is, last but not least, my
favorite the “Love never ends”, so if you’re in a relationship and at the end
you said, “we should break up, I don’t love you anymore”. Maybe you’ve never
loved him/her in the first place anyway, because love never ends, like when
your parents said that they love you, there’s nothing in this world that can
change the way they feel about you.. They will always love you through
everything, better or worse, tears and laughter, even if sometimes you resent
them.
If
you cannot satisfy all the condition above, does it still call love? If you
said that you love someone and you lied to him at the same time, would it still
be love? Or if you cheated on your partner, is it possible that you still love
him/her? So, before you said that you love someone, make sure that you are able
to do all those things above. It’s hard? I know.. but at least you can try, and
ask God to keep you strong :)
PS:
it’s just my opinion, doesn’t mean that what I said has to be right, maybe you
have your own opinion, please feel free to comment and give your own thought